Almost a quarter of a century ago, in 1993, I was told by my supervisor at the time that I would never be an area manager and that I had reached the apax of my potential as a restaurant manager. At the time this was a bitter blow. There is nothing wrong with being a restaurant manager. In fact, I loved the role. I just wanted to do more. So I did.
That one painful conversation has been one of the biggest learning moments of my life. It gave me the ultimate decision to make; would I allow this mans words to define my future or would I absorb the blow and move positively forward? I thankfully choose the later and have never ever looked back.
The learning here is that while someone’s opinion may be important it should never ever be allowed by you to define you. You know who you are. You know what you are capable of but you can use their words to reinforce and fortify your resolve.
It also was a motivating force that led me to commit to self development. While this was important prior I took it to a new level. It instilled in me a never stop learning attitude and gave me the confidence to believe in myself and the realization that I hold the keys to my future.
Make sure that you define you always.